things I MUST start doing


This month I would be a year older. Somehow it don’t seem like things have gotten better. Sometimes it also seems like when I take 1 step forward, life throws me a curve ball taking me 10 steps backwards. There’s a deep urge to give up, throw-in the towel and welcome that horrible darkness but it’s at those times that His still voice whispers, I’m here… I’m with you… Don’t give up now… you’re almost there…

I don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel but I hold on to my mustard seed faith and stumble in the darkness, forging on…

I know the Restorer is at work…

The Potter is creating a masterpiece…

But you know what, when I look back, I am amazed at how far I have come! The valleys I have crossed, the mountains I have climbed and guess what? I am still in one piece- ALIVE and SMARTER! And I am not where I was 2 years ago, actually I’m in a much better place. So I’ve decided that from today, no matter what, I’m going to Pray hard, Praise wildly, be forever Grateful to Him who has kept me and is still keeping me, Serve with all my heart, Love with abandon, let go of my past and invite Peace in, feel ecstatically Joyful even when it don’t feel like there’s anything to be happy about but most importantly, to have strength to face each day as it comes, I am going to hold fiercely to Hope while keeping the Faith.

When the Lord turned again the captivity of Zion, we were like them that dream. Then was our mouth filled with laughter, and our tongue with singing. -Psalm 126

image inspired by Mamma Winger


My elder brother had an amazing dress sense! We lost him many years ago… dead, but still alive, living daily in our hearts.

He wrote a lot too! Some unforgettable memories still come to mind… one day, sitting on the porch together, he read to me from some of his masterpieces… I have all his writings on my shelf, I treasure them greatly… “The Beacon” is my best yet, i carry it every where i go.

Though recluse, he always seemed to be readily available when we needed him. My parents treated him with such veneration, and Mum never failed to remind us to copy him. I especially, was his favorite or so I thought, Timothy felt like the favorite one too… He had a pet name for all of us!
He always had the right words to say when we came with all our baggage, he soon became our family lawyer! His lips were laced with Grace… I miss him! I miss him terribly!

His dress sense was exceptional! He was the first man I saw who always dressed with a shawl around his neck and a hat to match. His belt was always same color with his shoes… I wondered how and when he had the time… my siblings and I bugged him without end to open a fashion house and bring value to his creativity. Apparently, being a writer mattered most to him… so he wrote. He wrote everyday!

Two weeks ago, I was reading “the Beacon” for the umpteenth time and then gbam! Light bulb! I knew what I must do. In the sixth chapter, he spoke of dressing up as being analogous to getting ready for warfare. He elucidated further on the distinguishing of an individual from a uniformed officer and how that victory is won by considering every apparel detail…
So I knew i would start a fashion blog as a tribute to him and a constant reminder for the family. I would call it “ASOEBI” originally meaning, “family cloth”. It will provide tips on the appropriate outfit to wear for any/every occasion and as a bonus, would also provide the most current accessories!

One time he told me, “your dressing identifies you as a member of this family.”

So, here’s to my brother, mentor, teacher and friend still living on…

Credits; These are the words of my brother Paul the Apostle written esoterically for the Church-the body of Christ, God’s own family. I hope you find just what you seek… you are family!

1. Romans 13:12; “The night is nearly over, the day is almost here. So let us put aside the deeds of darkness and put on the armor of light.”

2. 1Thessalonians 5:8; “But since we belong to the day, let us be self controlled, putting on faith and love as a breastplate and the hope of salvation.”

3.Ephesians 6:11; “Put on the whole armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes.”

4. Ephesians 4:24; “And to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.”

5. Rom 13:14; “Rather clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature.”

6. Galatians 3:27; “All of us who are baptized into Christ, have clothed ourselves with Christ.”

7. Colossians 3:10; “And have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its creator.”

8. Colossians 3: 12; “Therefore as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.”

For more of Apostle Paul’s writings, please read your Bible, especially the epistles…They’ll change your life forever!
Love, Grace and Peace.

Paula Ezeka
Love’s Voice
April 20, 2015

Written by my little Sister, Pauline. She writes beautifully! Asoebi (translation: cloth of the family) is used to refer to the outfits made from matching fabric and pattern worn by family members at a wedding ceremony or social event to denote unity, support and represent sides of the family. in our culture we usually have the traditional wedding before the church wedding. The traditional wedding is the day we welcome the groom and his family into our home and the bride price is paid, almost like an engagement party- maybe even so!

Usually the bride picks a color as you can see in the picture, another little sister of mine, she chose green and gold for her traditional wedding in 2009. The aso-ebi has evolved since then with the change of fashion but it still has the same meaning! Just wanted to briefly explain what Aso-ebi means! 


My Sister, Nkechi with her groom- Her traditional wedding, 2009!


I’m in that picture somewhere! Sisters, Cousins, Friends- wearing the ‘Family Cloth’!


My other sisters, cousins and the brides friends waiting to welcom the groom and his family to the brides fathers house


Dancing into the house with the groom and his family following behind them!

I wish I can tell the interesting story of traditional weddings, it’s a fun family gathering, but that will be a whole new post!

Liebster Award | Thank You Silverstein ♥

I met Silverstein at Suzie81 Speaks blog party and I have enjoyed visiting her blogsphere and reading her blog posts ever since. I love the fluidity with which she writes- I want to be like you when I grow up Silverstein Potter! Thank you for nominating me for the Liebster award. Can you go over to her BLOG and say thank you for me too? Trust me you’d receive a warm welcome!

And here’s my answer to her questions:

Why did you start a blog?

Before I discovered blogging and the pressure of writing and crafting words to suit an audience, I used to really enjoy buying journals and writing, good old fashion writing with a pen. I have a stark of journals filled with stickers, writings, pictures and words! When I was happy, depressed, sad, ecstatic, loving, not loving, heartbroken, in love ermm especially heartbroken-I wrote! And boy did I write- not for an audience but just for me, I poured my heart out! Over the years I seem to have lost that thing…the writing thing, just for writing sake. So this blog is an avenue to express myself, tell a story, encourage someone- really find my writing ‘voice’ again- no strategy! no formula!

What is your favorite book?

This one is a hard one! I don’t have a favourite book. I’ll say all of John Grisham’s books- even the ones not yet published 🙂

Where is your favorite place to read?

In my little study/office! It’s a cute place surrounded by my books!

Who do you admire most and why?

My husband! Let me tell you something- I AM STUBBORN! But this man is ever so patient and like my people will say- He loves me die! I admire his patience and his ability to love me selflessly even when i am so stubborn. When I’m hot-headed he still makes me coffee in the morning and breakfast in bed and still cooks dinner and makes sure he has seconds for me! My husband is the best cook ever! He loves me… I don’t even love as half as how he loves me. I want to be like him when I grow up!

What is one thing that is unique about you?

I know how to create structure in other people’s work/life but for the life of me I can’t seem to do the same for myself!

And….. drumroll I am nominating:

Shade but No Shade (She beat me to it and nominated me for an award! Thanks Karen)

My Beauty Signature

Ibukun Mochiah

Sista Dynamite

Rhed Lips

And these are my questions.

  1. What is your biggest problem/challenge when it comes to blogging?
  2. Where do you get the ideas for your blog posts?
  3. What has surprised you about your blog?
  4. If you could move to any part of the world right now, where would you go and why?
  5. If money was not a factor, what would be your dream job?
  6. Who inspires you?

Here are the rules for the Liebster Award-

  1. Link the person who nominated you (that’s me) to your blog post and let them know you answered their questions.
  2. Answer the questions given to you by the nominator.
  3. Nominate other bloggers for the award.
  4. Create questions for your nominees to answer.
  5. Let the nominees know that they have been nominated by going to their blog and notifying them.

*Those that I nominated please no pressure in taking part, if you want to, great! It’s a fantastic way to meet other bloggers.

I wrote this post since I got this award! Better late than never to publish! Thank you Silverstein